NEW WEBSITE

I am so excited! I just spent 8+ hours working on my new website. It’s a work in progress, but I am officially making the switch. That means if you’ve subscribed to this blog. You’ll need to head over to www.MyMarriageInMotion.com and subscribe. Please do it. I’d hate to lose all my new followers 🙂


Make sure and let me know what you think of the new site. It’s all for you so your feedback is extremely valued!

Side note: Looking to upgrade your website? Let me know and I’ll hook you up 🙂

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New Website

Hi folks! Thank you for being a reader of my blog. I wanted to let you know I’ve got a new website coming your way soon. (YAY!) It will make it easier to find the content you want and share it with your friends. I’ll be having some downtime while it’s being upgraded so if you visit and we’re not up and running, come back in a day or so for the big reveal!

Here’s to the new site!

 

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New Series: Monday’s Marriage Minute

I’ve been floating around a couple of ideas for my first series on the blog. One idea was to share a short video each week that gives you a peek into our marriage. I couldn’t stop thinking about that one when I was trying to get to sleep last night. As far as I’m concerned, that’s reason enough to give it a shot.

Marriage Minute is what kept sticking in my head. Posted each Monday because of course, Monday’s Marriage Minute sounds the best 🙂 I laughed a little when thinking about me saying anything in a minute, but hey, it’s my blog and I make the rules. I won’t penalize myself if I go over a minute. With that said, here’s my first Marriage Minute (roughly).

Have you ever had a moment like this? I’d love for you to share it in the comments.

Like it? Consider liking this on Facebook or stumbling it.

Hate it? Keep it to yourself. OR let me know in the comments 😉

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Top 10 Marriage Blog of 2011

After only 8 months of blogging and less than 2 years of marriage, My Marriage in Motion has made it onto the Top 10 Marriage Blogs list! I’d like to send a HUGE thank you to everyone that voted our blog into the #8 spot on this year’s top 10 list! I couldn’t believe I was nominated. I’m even more shocked that we made the top 10!

I highly recommend that you check out the entire Top 10 List. I haven’t made it through all the blogs yet, but many of them I know and love. I know you will too! Follow them and if you haven’t already, follow/subscribe to this blog as well 🙂

A special thank you to Stu Gray and the Stupendous Marriage blog for hosting the top 10 list. Stu and his wife are also Nashvillians. Small world!

Just for fun, here’s a reminder of where it all began. My 1st post: Celebrating 365

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I’m Angry at My Anger

On Friday, after a long day at work, I barely opened the door when an awful smell filled my senses. I wanted to think my assumption was false, but as I approached the bedroom door, I knew it wasn’t. With my hand on the doorknob I thought, “This is going to be bad.” It was worse than I thought. Minny’s guilty puppy eyes greeted me. Apparently she was sick. Sick enough to leave a stinky wet mess all over our bedroom floor.

There I was. Exhausted. Hungry (not for long). Staring at poo covered floors and dog that I couldn’t even blame. I called Casey to come to my rescue. A part of me was hoping he would rush home from basketball practice to help me clean, but I was certain it wasn’t going to happen. Not because he doesn’t love me, but because it was the last practice before their first game on Monday. When he confirmed that he wouldn’t be home for an hour or so, I was angry. He was helping as much as he could – ending practice a little early, picking up Resolve on his way home. There really wasn’t much else that he could do. I was still angry.

From our counseling I’ve learned that anger is often a symptom of an underlying feeling, but there are some occasions where we are just plain angry – usually linked to something we deem unfair. If anything’s unfair, it has to be me at home scrubbing dog poo while Casey stays at basketball practice. The truth is I wasn’t really angry with Casey. I was angry at the situation. Yet when he came home I treated him like it was his fault Minny messed all over the place.

After my 3+ hours of scrubbing, 2 bottles of Resolve and 2 piles of towels, the traces of Minny’s mess were gone, but the sting from my anger remained. It makes me angry that I consciously let my anger overflow onto Casey like that. ::Let me rephrase that:: It makes me angry that I consciously dumped a bucket of boiling anger onto Casey like that – knowing that it’s really my own lack of humility or excess of entitlement that brought on the anger in the first place.

Since Friday, I have been rehashing the situation. Thinking about ways I could have avoided taking my anger out on Casey, but in writing this post I’ve realized that blaming Casey wasn’t my problem. The problem was that I got angry in the first place. Did it stink that Minny pooed everywhere? Yes. Was I inconvenienced by it? Yes. Would I have preferred to have had help cleaning it up? Definitely. But an anger of inconvenience does not a righteous anger make. In fact, truly loving my husband would have been doing everything I could to keep him from having to scrub poo (which he did avoid by the way). Right? Yup. Just another reminder that I’ve got plenty to learn and lots of growing to do.

— I was going to post before and after pictures of the bedroom,
but I talked myself out of it. I know you’re disappointed. —

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Nominated for Top 10 Marriage Blog

I am shocked and honored that folks think my marriage blog should be in the Top 10! A lot of the blogs on the list tell you how to improve your marriage and if you read this blog, you know that’s far from what I talk about. We’re just young newlyweds, sharing our story with anyone that will listen. I’m not trying to tell you how to improve your marriage, just telling you all what God’s been doing through mine – the good, the bad and the ugly. Hopefully you find it occasionally encouraging, sometimes humorous and always transparent.

If you’ve enjoyed this blog, please take a minute to vote help My Marriage in Motion make it into the Top 10.

VOTE HERE: http://www.stupendousmarriage.com/vote-for-your-favorite-marriage-blog-of-2011

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Living in the In-Between

It’s Saturday night and I’m recouping from travel as I’m sure many of you are. Casey and I spent Thanksgiving week with his side of the family in Bismarck, North Dakota.  For the first time in a long time, the whole immediate family was able to get together. It was a genuinely fun time, but I found myself feeling a bit out of place. I’ve never really noticed it as much as I did this trip with all of us together for a week.

It’s hard being the newest member of the family. Think about it. They share the same genes, have years of history behind them and have an unbreakable bond, as they should. It’s difficult to become a part of that bond, but not impossible. There are two other in-laws in the family, but after 10+ years of marriage they have seamlessly integrated into the family.

It’s not for lack of effort that I felt out of place. Casey’s family is wonderful and the women have really gone out of their way to love me well. I guess I’m just stuck in this in-between phase. Not only am I the new girl, I’m the only woman that isn’t a mom. There’s a unique connection that draws mothers together. Their lives somewhat revolve around their children. It’s only natural that parenting would often be a topic of conversation, especially with my sister-in-law expecting. Even more, all the other women are all stay-at-home moms. Even further, they all love to cook. Clearly I’m not a mom. I’m a workaholic wife that hates being in the kitchen. Not exactly the most common ground to stand on.

So how do I keep from feeling out of place? Or maybe it’s just unavoidable. I mean aren’t we all always stuck in one in-between phase or another? I’d love to hear if any of you all have found yourself in a similar place with your in-laws, friends or your own family.

P.S. One more place for my 25 things list.

Related Post: The In-Law Stigma

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